How to suck a thick cock

A thick cock asks for most of what a mouth can open. Jaw, angle, hands, teeth and patience: a practical guide to doing it well and enjoying it

Length gets the jokes, but when it comes to giving head, girth is the number your jaw actually negotiates with. A long, slim cock is mostly a question of how much you take. A thick one is a question of whether it fits at all, and for how long you can keep it there. The good news is that you do not need a bigger mouth. You need a better plan.

Know what you are dealing with

Girth is measured around the shaft, so the width your mouth has to clear is about a third of it. The average erect cock is about 11.7 cm4.6 in around, which is roughly 3.7 cm1.5 in across. One in ten men is thicker than 13.1 cm5.2 in around, about 4.2 cm1.7 in across.

Now the mouth. In a study of 330 healthy adults, the maximum distance between the front teeth with the mouth opened as wide as possible was about 5 cm2 in on average, ranging from about 3.1 cm1.2 in to 7.1 cm2.8 in. That is a maximum, held for a second in a dentist's chair, not a position anyone can keep for ten minutes. Take off some room for lips covering teeth, and a thick cock asks for most of what a mouth has. That is why it tires you out, and why the tricks below are mostly about using less of it.

Relax the jaw first

A clenched jaw opens less and tires faster. Before you start, let your jaw hang loose for a moment, yawn once or twice, and move it gently side to side. During, keep the opening at the comfortable end of your range and let your lips do the sealing, rather than forcing your teeth wider apart. If your jaw starts to ache, that is the signal to change something, not to push through.

Short breaks help more than long heroic stretches. Come off, use your hand, kiss his thighs or his stomach, and go back. Nobody has ever complained about variety.

Angle and position

Your mouth and throat form a bend, and a straight, thick shaft fits better when you line them up. Small changes in angle make a big difference:

• Come at it from above, with him lying back and you kneeling or lying beside him, so you can control the depth and the angle with your neck.
• Tilt your head slightly to follow the natural curve of his cock instead of fighting it. If he curves up, approach from his feet; if he curves to one side, follow it.
• Avoid having your head held or pinned against a headboard. With a thick cock, being able to pull back at any moment is what makes it relaxing rather than stressful.

Your hands do half the work

You do not have to take a thick cock deep for it to feel good. The head and the ridge just below it are the most sensitive part for many men, and they are also the part that fits most easily. Focus your mouth there, and let one or both hands cover the shaft below, moving in rhythm with your mouth. A twist of the wrist as you move adds a lot. Plenty of spit or lube on your hand makes the transition between mouth and hand seamless, so from his side it feels like one long, wet motion.

Your hand also works as a stop. Wrapped around the base, it decides how deep he goes, which frees you to relax instead of guarding.

Teeth and gagging

The more a mouth is stretched, the harder it is to keep teeth out of the way, and a thick shaft makes contact more likely. Cover your lower teeth with your lips, or with your tongue pushed slightly forward, and keep your upper lip soft over the top teeth. Go slowly when the widest part of the head passes your teeth, that is where scraping usually happens. A light touch now and then is not a crime; dragging is. If he flinches, adjust and carry on.

A thick cock fills the back of the mouth sooner, so the gag reflex can kick in earlier. Some things that help:

• Breathe through your nose, calmly, before and during. Holding your breath makes everything tighter.
• Go in stages. Take a little, pause, come back, take a little more. The reflex often settles as you get used to it.
• Keep your tongue low and forward, flat along the floor of your mouth, to make space.
• Do not force depth. Gagging is your body saying stop, and deep-throating a thick cock is optional. Most men would rather have enthusiastic attention to the head than heroic depth.

Talk to him

Men with thick cocks usually know the drill. Tell him what works: slower, hold still, let you lead. Ask him what he likes, too, since the most sensitive spots vary from man to man. If teeth or a sore jaw get in the way, say so with a laugh rather than an apology. Good partners take it as a compliment, which it is.

Take care of yourself afterwards as well. A jaw that aches the next day is normal after a long session; one that clicks, locks or keeps hurting for days is worth showing to a doctor or dentist. Oral sex is not free of risk for sexually transmitted infections either, so regular testing is part of the routine, whatever the size. For the numbers behind the word thick, see Girth.